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Love it when I get messages from people who are on dates after meeting at a Show Love party! This gorgeous couple are now dating after our recent Show Love R&B party!
From the Show Love 80's party this lovely couple are happy dating after meeting and getting to know each other!
From the first ever Show Love party this wonderful couple say Thank you as they found love face to face!
November 19th 2003 is the day Bronwen Murphy changed my life…..She found me love.
I wasn’t expecting to meet my future husband that night. Myself and Bronwen had finished work on Top of The Pops and were having a drink in the Star Bar. We were exhausted after a full days work and feeling far from sociable. But then Bronwen spotted a face in the crowd…the face that would change my life forever. She marched over to him and said “you have to meet my friend”. To state the obvious, that friend was me!!
I don’t know how she knew he was the one for me, but she was right. Within 6 months we were engaged. We have been together 13 years and have two beautiful daughters.
I will be forever grateful to Bronwen, for having the intuition to introduce me to that face in the crowd…my husband Wag. Never underestimate the power of the first encounter.
"I genuinely think the best place to meet people is face to face, and I think you should SHOW LOVE. Go to a party, have a great time and maybe you'll meet that person that you are not expecting to meet!" 💖
"Fantastic night out...fun fun fun...dancing, live music and fabulous dancers. Believe me this is like no other singles night. The chance to flirt and mingle without the pressure. If you are single please check out Show Love!" 💖
"...have to tell you I was lucky enough to meet and kiss a gorgeous man on that boat by the river, and I'm seeing him for the fourth time this week. Thank you for doing this Bronwen!..."💋
Met at Show Love ❤️
"Lying in bed with R, and we just talked about how it was Show Love that brought us together. We've never said a proper thank you so thanks 😘 Xx"
Met at Show Love ❤️
"Thank you for your introduction to P, still having fun!! 😃"
"A more fun no pressure way to meet people organised by a friend - 'Modern dating the old fashioned way'."💐
"Last one had everyone talking. Look single friends, the only party worth bothering with..."🤘🏽
"It's all about clever, brave smart women....the lovely Bronwen Murphy wants all you singletons out there to buy tickets to her Show Love party. The last one was a roaring success so I'd get them sharpish. Good luck lovely!"💕
"An amazing night out for all people single. Music, dancing and all things fun!"❤️
"You produced a stunning event. FACT!
The next one will be ACE. FACT!"💛
"Thanks for hosting the amazing Show Love, I invited five friends to come with me after finding out about the party and we all had an amazing time. The band, atmosphere, dancers and the photo booth were brilliant and added to a great night out. Personally I spoke to some lovely people and one in particular. Unfortunately things didn't work out, but we've become good friends and keep in contact! Looking forward to the next one!"💚
"Congratulations on all the couples that either kissed at your first party or are still dating, including your first gay couple! Having been there I just know this is going to be a success."💙
"My male friends went to Show Love and said it was brilliant! They loved the dancers too."💜
"Back by popular demand, it's happening again. Don't miss out as its so good."💋
"It's all about Show Love - rehearsals at the famous Pineapple dance studios. LETS DO THIS." 👭👫👬
"It's such a great idea you have Show Love. Come on the radio and talk about it!" 💕
"Show Love. Modern dating the old fashioned way." ❤️
"Celebs are backing this matchmakers mould breaking dating idea." ⚡️
"You do NOT want to miss this amazing event!" 💌
"Promotion of my creative brave friends work. Bronwen Murphy is running a progressive, inventive, grown up and sexy new take on singles nights. She is a bit of a genius." 🙏🏽
"This is much better than any online dating apps. Meet other interesting single people face to face instead of through swiping." 💄
"My bezzie Bronwen Murphy has the actual word LOVE in her eye! Amazing x #showloveuk "
"So much admiration for this young lady that I taught in the 80's and is one of the many that I keep in touch with. Why would I ever have wanted to be anything else than a teacher?" 🎓
"Bronwen Murphy is a lovely person, I can vouch for her! Brilliant idea." 💟
"Show Love, the events for singles who want to connect face to face by beautiful Bronwen Murphy" 🌹
The Butterfly Effect
Close your eyes and think about that boy. Tell me how he makes you feel. Let your mind trace over his tired shoulders. Allow your thoughts to linger on that beautiful smile. Take a deep breath and try to put those dark thoughts aside. For once, let go of the reins you've wrapped up so tightly around your heart. I know you are scared. Who could blame you? Love is a hurricane wrapped inside a chrysalis. And you are a girl walking into the storm.
In August 1981 Gene and Gilda met on the set of their movie Hanky Panky, a comedy directed by Sidney Poitier. At 48 years old Gene had already been married twice, but had been divorced for several years when he met Gilda. Gilda was one of the original cast members of Saturday Night Live and had been married to musician G.E. Smith. In her autobiography, It's Always Something, Gilda described her meeting Gene as "love at first sight." She wrote, "My heart fluttered — I was hooked. It felt like my life went from black and white to technicolor." They married three years later on Sept. 18, 1984.
In 1986, just two years after marrying, Gilda was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, and after a hysterectomy and chemotherapy, she was pronounced cancer-free in 1988. Sadly in 1989 her cancer returned and she died at only 42 years old. Gene was 55, and was at her side when she died. They had been married for five years. Gene later revealed that he had stopped acting to care for her, to keep her laughing, and kept the fact that she only had a 20 percent chance of survival a secret.
After her death, Gene shot a video intended for doctors about detecting cancer in women and testified in front of US Congress to rally for increased funding for women's reproductive diseases in America. He founded the Gilda Radner Ovarian Detection Center and Gilda's Club, a free support group for cancer patients and their family and friends. Their love was short but strong, and may they both rest in peace now together again. 💕
Andy the lead singer from the band Lawson tricked his new fiancee Joey into going down to the set of the band’s recent music video for their song Where My Love Goes, to take pictures behind the scenes. He used the moment to propose, and the video now shows the journey to getting down on one knee, as well as the proposal aided by the rest of the band. So romantic! 💍💕
One of the things that attracted me to my husband Barack was his emotional honesty. Right off the bat he said what he felt. There are no games with him, he is who he appears to be. I feel fortunate as a woman to have a husband who loves me and shows me in every way.
GAIA ROSE - 14 years & two teenagers later me & my hubby are still together & very much in love, but more importantly we're the best of friends.
We knew each other from school but never really spoke, it wasn't until our early 20's that we had our first date. I knew straight away that I felt something for him that I'd never felt before. I had a 1 year old daughter at the time, & I guess the biggest thing I fell in love with was how great he was with her, as well as myself. He took her on as he's own straight away, & to me, that's the act of a truly wonderful man.
Of course, we've had many ups & downs, things that the world doesn't always see, but deep down at the core of everything, we are, & always have been, the best of friends. Although through the struggles, we lost that friendship, many times! But it was never lost enough that we couldn't find each other again...That's love.
when something good happens, he's the first one I want to share it with, & all of the ventures I take in life, I always want him by my side.
It hasn't always been easy, no relationship is, you can lose respect & begin to 'nit pic' if you're not careful, but if you both still deeply care for each other, are willing to forgive the past hurts, communicate your feelings, let go of relationship 'perfection' & come from the heart, then love, will always find its way.
BARRY - Being married to your best friend is just the best thing ever. Having Gaia in my life makes me want to keep trying to always be the best man I can be and I owe so much of who I am today because of her. At times things are not always easy and plain sailing but coming through the other side of those times are always worth it. I feel so lucky to have found a woman who is not only beautiful on the outside but also truly beautiful on the inside as well. Having Gaia by my side has always made the hard things in life that much easier to pull through and also been great to share all the many happy times with too.
I'm so grateful for her and I look forward to many more years going through life hand in hand together.
She is by best friend, my soul mate, my love X
You don't want to be heartbroken? You don't want to be sad? You want to be happy? You've got to work at it. You have to concentrate on yourself and work. Hard.
Take a good look at yourself. There are certain triggers and behaviours that you must break. Things that you do to protect yourself that you learnt as a child. Things that you think are good for you but in fact are blocking you. Certain beliefs that you think you have based your life on for years but don't fit with who you are or who you want to be. You need to grow and learn from this experience and use it to become a better person for your next partner.
Don't surround yourself in fear or negativity. Don't over think. Don't worry about things that haven't happened yet. These are all things that I have learned later on in life.
Helping myself and becoming a better person myself is by far the single most important and effective way of getting over heartbreak. Take it from someone who is there...
To help you on your way, a little gift to you today....let me let you in on The Secret.... 💋
Brian and Arthur married a year ago today in Ireland. Beautiful couple. Beautiful souls. Beautiful ceremony. Love wins. ❤️💛💚💙💜💘
Portia de Rossi has said the sweetest words about her wife of seven years Ellen DeGeneres. "We're Madly In Love. We're just really good friends and we talk about everything, and we never ever, ever lie to each other, like, not even the tiniest lies". The actress said about the secret to maintaining their longtime relationship "She's the only person I want to hang out with. Like, she is my best friend and I just want to be with her all the time."💕
Hugh and his wife Deborra met in 1995 on the set of Australian TV show Correlli. The actor proposed with an engagement ring he had personally designed for his bride, and their wedding rings bore the Sanskrit inscription "Om paramar mainamar," translated as "we dedicate our union to a greater source".
The couple married in April 1996 in Melbourne, and after two miscarriages, they adopted their two children Oscar and Ava. "The most important slogan I live by, is drummed into me every day, Happy wife, happy life. That's the slogan. We're about to celebrate our 20th. It gets better and better, I can honestly say that. She's the greatest thing that ever happened to me".
He was the heart throb of Greenwich. Everybody wanted to date Charlie Archer. Tall, handsome, classy and oozed confidence. One summers evening, fresh out of the army, I saw him walking along the street, Charlie spotted me from across the road and knew that moment that he had fallen in love for the very first time. He turned to his best friend Dave and said "I'm going to marry that girl". That was 65 years ago and we have loved each other ever since...❤️
A little further on and I realise that I have changed a bit. I'm giving myself more love than ever before... I don't quite know when it happened, but by sorting things around me out, seeing my friends, helping people I care about... I've become busy. I no longer sit around feeling lonely or sad, I don't have time anymore. So getting up and taking action, diving into people and things has helped.
Working on my new Show Love business is making me think about and feel love everyday. Giving love to others and making other people feel happy and loved. I feel closer to a lot of my friends this way, and have so much love for my sons, being in their company is my favourite thing. The fact that I am helping other people too, and get positive messages means the world.
Weirdly love for me from others has become less of a priority. What I mean is, I don't want to be with another man other than J. So I guess I will be alone. I don't need a man, and I don't think I could fit in a boyfriend relationship right now anyway. I'm going to take everyday as it comes, and just wish for a happy and healthy future.
My heart is still fragile.... And as always I have a way to go. This is the way it is right now, and maybe for a while. But if anything changes I will let you know 💋
You know where to find me...
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❤️ Always to the stars... 🌌
In 2001 I met a guy at work. I had been single for quite a long time so wasn't interested in time wasters. We had exchanged a bit of email banter and I thought, I could really like this guy. I met Bronwen for drinks and we talked about the possible new romance and she thought I was on to a good thing. When Tim came back from his holiday we went for drinks after work in the BBC TV Centre bar. It just so happened that Bronwen was working on the 100th episode of 'They think it's all over' and she managed to sneak us into the after show party. It was there we had our first kiss. 3 months later we moved in together and in August 2002 (on my birthday) Tim asked me to marry him. We married in 2004 and after 2 years travelling we settled in North Wales (Tim's home ground) by the sea and have been lucky enough to have 2 beautiful boys. We are blessed. xx
Never forget what you are worth.
Don't let the fear in.
Say positive affirmations.
These are the things that help me everyday. Being true to myself and my feelings. I acknowledge how I feel, how much I love and am vunerable because of it. But I don't mind being vunerable. So many people hate it, but it reminds me I am strong and I am open and I am true and I believe that good things will happen to me. I have no idea what they are but that's part of the magic of life.
I have so much love to give...and I project that everyday. To my sons, to my friends, to my new Show Love business.... If you give your love to those that want it, it is so rewarding.
If you hold on to hate or regret or worry it just ruins your own life. I feel joy about love, my love and everyone else's love. Do not focus on the negativity, I've been there and life sucks there!! Heartbreak is painful...so you have to be your own hero and give love to yourself.
My son pointed out this weekend whilst in a caravan by the sea that I have a word written in my eye. My best mate had a closer look and told me it was the word Love. I thought she was joking, but no it's right there. And I am taking that as a massive sign from the universe I am on the right path.
You know how you know you are living a life true to you? It feels good. If you wake up full of dread or anger then you need to change something. This has been a hard time for me but I am working at it and learning more all the time. I finally feel like I am getting somewhere, and like where I am going...
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David had his sights set on Victoria long before they ever met, telling a newspaper that she first caught his eye when he watched the Spice Girls 'Say You'll Be There' music video. Recalling what he thought when he saw her, David said, "That's the girl for me and I'm going to get her. She's my idea of perfection. I knew that if she wanted me, we would be together forever." The pair later met at a Manchester United football game in 1997, married in 1999, and are parents to Brooklyn, Romeo, Cruz, and Harper. ❤️
Time and space. That's what everyone seems to tell you that you will need for your heart to stop hurting. Time and space are amazing...I'm fascinated by them.
Time - my favourite movie 'Back to the Future' about going back in time has been an obsession since I was 13. Imagine if you could go back in time, would you change anything? I'm not sure I would. It's led me here for some reason. So why will ignoring and blocking things out with a massive amount of 'time' in the middle make it easier to deal with what is happening right now? I have never been one to wait. Let's do it now. Live in the present. What do I want now? Work that out and DO THAT. As soon as you realise what your soul needs you should focus on that. I want to be happy and loved, so that is my focus. Believe that what you want will come to you.
Space - I mean, we have no idea how vast it is and what is out there. What we do know is that it is an amazing f**king miracle of energy. Thinking about it suddenly makes you feel small and pretty unimportant in the grand scheme of things. However much space you create between you and your problem it's not dealing with it. It's blocking it out. Deal with stuff. Deal with it as soon as possible and change for the better. I'm dealing with it every day.
So I don't agree time and space are the answer. I think focus and action are needed, and relax and trust in yourself and the universe. That's what I'm doing anyway... Who's with me?
Whatever I'm doing must be right because the sun is shining and I feel excited again. And I am growing, I see things a bit differently, and I am learning every day. Don't stop, don't wallow, get up, keep going and work hard on yourself. Admit when you were wrong and try again. Mainly do things that make you smile.
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Met my beautiful husband when I was just sweet sixteen, I was smitten by his polite, shy, adorable personality! We dated for months travelling between North and South London, at that young age it worked! After 3 years we bought our first home together! We had the most amazing 8 years together travelling the world before our wedding in Mauritius and now have 3 wonderful sons. 23 years later I can honestly say I love him more and more and we are still finding out new and interesting things about each other everyday! Love to love xx
I suppose it's normal to go backwards some days, it's constantly raining at the moment like the universe is crying as much as me.
It's like I'm stuck in a fog, and one friend even suggested that I was depressed. It made me feel worse, as I pointed out I am just grieving. Truth is they have never seen me like this before because I've never dived so deep and lost before. I feel like that man Noah in the movie 'The Notebook' when he lost the person he loved and just went into himself, but instead of building a house I am going to put everything into making a business. It's hard when you feel like you have nothing to give right now.
I feel like I have given all my goodness to someone and am left like Superman after he's been weakened, with no power left. Lying on the floor. I'm annoyed I gave so much and didn't keep anything for myself. I don't regret it though, loving so hard was a wonderful experience, and I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that I wasn't imagining that he was holding back. For whatever reason he did, it hurts like hell. In honesty, I miss him. I still love him. I just want someone to come and pick me up. I've never asked for support before, but I could do with a superhero....
With what I have left I am going to have to be my own hero. I have to try and move forwards. I've done it plenty of times before, but I don't ever remember it being this hard.
Tomorrow is another day, and I forgive myself for having a down day. After all...I'm human. Being honest with myself and fighting it is half the battle won already.
I am going to try more different things to push me on from this. Anything that works I will keep doing. This is what growing is like and it's hard work!! Moving on is what I will have to force myself to do...even if I don't want to.
So many people have said to me over the years "You are so strong"...I have to remember that, and believe in that. Again.
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16 years ago I met Mark! I was not too keen on him at first, but he soon worked his way into my heart. We quickly fell pregnant and had a beautiful daughter, and a year later we married followed by finding out a few months after that we were expecting twins. Life has been hectic and we have had our ups and downs but our love for each other continues to grow stronger everyday, I cannot believe that we will be celebrating our 14th wedding anniversary very soon. ❤️
I am not a pretty crier. We all want to look like Demi Moore in 'Ghost' when we cry, but in reality swollen eyes are not a good look. As I have spent the last couple of months on and off crying this was doing nothing for my confidence! I still cry. I cry for the passion and touch I miss so much. I cry for the loss of a magical connection. I cry because it's over.😭
As you know I took a hold of myself last weekend and had to start letting go.... Well, wow, what a week it's been.🙏🏼
First thing I did was delve into that personal development book, which has inspired a new outlook and routine. I had time away from draining distractions, committed more to my passion / business plans and filled my week with people that just make me buzz. You know those people that you don't want to leave because you love being in their energy? Spend more time with those people!! I've avoided energy zappers and negative or angry people. It's been wonderful.🌈
I have stopped wallowing in my own self indulgent, feeling sorry for myself heartbreak and drawn a line under the past as a positive experience. After all I had a lot of fun f**king a guy 14 years younger than me!😜
Best quotes of the week “You will evolve past certain people. Let yourself.” It still hurts but I'm letting myself....and "Love never withholds." It feels good to know I gave my all, never withholding, I felt a deep love, always.💟
I have taken up new things, and I have gained clarity and focus on what I really want. I always knew what I deserved, but now I know that I need to choose someone capable of giving me the honest, monogamous and secure love I deserve. As well as the fun, spontaneous and sexy filled days I enjoy!!👫
A fascinating fact I read this week is that 95% of our society settle for far less than they want in life, wishing they had more, living with regret and never understanding that they could be, do and have all that they want. So I should be proud that I got out of something that made me so insecure, and I am going to work on joining the top 5%!!🌟
I have had a pamper massage day, caught up on sleep, screamed on scary rides, been a lady who lunches and even tried reiki....everything is energy, so this was a buzzing experience for me. ⚡️
I feel like I am growing into the person I should be already and I like it!! Now I just need to keep this up. Letting go and moving on are two completely different things.💫
Weirdly as soon as you decide that men are the last thing you want to think about right now, they come out of the woodwork from the past or are right in your face in the present. It's flattering but I'm not at all interested. I'm just not ready. My heart is only held together with plasters...💌
I have a long way to go and a lot of work to do. But bring it on. To those reading this with broken hearts. We can get through this....
Always to the stars...🌌
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Jada first met Will when she was just 19, during an audition on the set of The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air. But it was several years later before they met again and became an item. "After we had known each other for many years, we went out for dinner one night and I saw that he had grown from this lanky kid to this really responsible man. We started courting each other and our friendship turned into romance."
There comes a point when you realise that when somebody does nothing, when you keep asking them to please do something, and they still do nothing, that this person doesn't care about you. Despite what they have said with words, actions speak clearly. This is where I am now. J did nothing. J does nothing. J doesn't care.
There also comes a point where you have to give up hope that they will stop hurting you. How long are you supposed to hope that they will take any action? That time to give up is now. There are so many ways that he could have shown me what I needed to see. He did nothing. He doesn't want me.
Despite the fact that I walked away, trying to make a change, trying to get what I deserve, trying to give him what he wanted, I always still had hope we would make it. Hope that he would choose me completely. I fell so deeply in love with him. But hope is killing me. It's time to switch it off. It's time to leave the past behind and not speak of it or write it anymore. The whole relationship has left me very disappointed, a lot frustrated, a little bit angry and so f**king hurt. It has caused us unnecessary pain. It was all so simple. It was made complicated by fear and lies. And whilst I am still hurting alone he has moved on. It's time for me to finally move on too. What is best, I guess, is that I chose this route, so I must stick to it. No more pain please.
Truth and love are the only real things in the world. Truth and love are what I give and what I want and deserve.
It's time for me to fully get on with my life without that stupid, crazy hope. It's time to focus on the present and the future. I am picking myself up from the heap on the floor, dusting myself off, determined to get stronger and become that amazing woman I am proud of once again.
The book I am reading is going to change my life too. It's exciting. My sons are so cuddly and funny that they are all the company I need at home right now. Until one day that honest, loving, funny, strong, sexy, clever, wonderful man I deserve will walk into my life....
But until then. I am going to put all this powerful energy I have into my incredible small family and my new venture. Amazing things are happening at Show Love. I can't wait to share them with you....
And as always my TV career and my friends will fill my life with lovely adventures. I'm a lucky lady. So you know my story....I've not held back. No more tears, no more fear. It's time to stand on a snowy mountain and sing. These words sum it up right now....
Nas once said "I'll be the first man to admit that a fat ass caught my attention, but never made me faithful. A pretty face got me to commit, but never changed me. It was that funny girl with that beautiful personality, million dollar smile and a heart of gold that left me in tears begging for a second chance. I never viewed women the same after her. She left my heart convinced that love is more about chemistry than biology."
Some people might think this is weak of me, but it's actually quite empowering. The not talking about it is a struggle...but I'm trying.... Never underestimate the power of friends. If it hadn't been for them these last few weeks I wouldn't have got very far....and although you have moments where you are all trying to justify that he was nasty or not good enough (whilst singing into hairbrushes like )
you can't help the voice in your head saying 'but we had a real connection!'.
You know that feeling when you fall in love with someone and they marry someone else? No, of course not, because it's not normal, and his not fully committing to either her or me started the spiral of our demise. I used to hope that he would do a big gesture, like a couple I heard of recently who split and she went on a cruise and when the ship docked he was waiting there with a big sign saying he loved her, just to show me and the world he'd chosen me, but it never came.
Most people's advice is to get under someone to get over someone, but the recent night I went out I sobbed on a friend's shoulder. In truth there is nothing further from my mind!! I haven't thought of another man since I saw him on 20th September 2012!! It's strong stuff this science. I have been 100% his since then to this point. Frustratingly his trust in me was always very low. He used to say the idea of me with someone else made him feel physically sick, well, that works both ways. He used to say a lot that I wanted to hear, but his actions never seemed to match his words. I simply can't be bothered with a rebound relationship, however much I miss the sex!!
And don't you dare say anything about Internet dating. NOT going to happen.
J though, I think he's out there already moving on. I hope all his dreams come true, they say that's what true love is, always wanting what's best for someone even if it doesn't include you. He only gave me half of him, and I wanted a whole person, who would only settle for half a man? I gave him all of me, and it's so tough forcing yourself to leave. But if he doesn't want me then I need to let him go.
So this will be me until further notice -
- I'm going to concentrate on trying to at least get a full nights sleep and not wake up in the early hours with the same face etched on my mind as it has been for years...
I will love him from a far and I will just have to give in to that right now. Get through each day and accomplish things for me. I have no idea what the next step is??
Who knows what the future holds?
Always to the stars....🌌
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❤21 years ago I met my soul mate...within 6 months he had moved in to our family home. We had lots of fun times but also like in most relationships there were times that it was tested to the max........ we got through it! 16 years ago we 'tied the knot' in front of 130 friends and family, it was an amazing day that we both won't ever forget. Our family unit was completed 12 years ago when our son Ted entered the world. Apart from being older, greyer and just a little wiser we are as happy now as we were 21 years ago when we met! ❤
There comes a point when you think surely there can't be anymore tears? But still they come. It's the frustration for me. I want to bang my fists on his chest and shout 'it was so simple, why couldn't you just dive in and love me?'. But then you realise that there was a massive reason why he made it complicated, why he never gave into it completely, why we didn't grow from 'dating', why there was always something, why he lied and dragged his feet....it wasn't that he was younger or not ready....it was that he didn't want to dive. He didn't want me like I wanted him. He wasn't that into me. That stings.
The rejection is worse than the loneliness. When you finally admit to yourself that you have to walk away because this guy won't give you what you deserve. It's like falling on the floor in a heap.
I mean I have been in love twice before, and I got over it eventually....you try and think back to what you did then. It just takes time. And it never really goes away totally.
But this love....with J, it was quite a lot of f**king euphoric moments. It blew our minds sometimes. Which makes it harder to swallow that he didn't just simply decide to choose me completely. I am gutted.
Maybe this is our karma for hurting the two people we were in previous relationships with? It has taught me that if you start with an affair you already plant that mistrust in your relationship. But everything happens for a reason...their marriage was doomed to fail and it set that woman free to find real love. And the lovely man I hurt, who didn't love me the way I needed (in the five languages of love I need physical touch - my favourite!! and a lot of words of affirmation...it just wasn't his way. Find yours here www.5lovelanguages.com ) he went on to find his first love and they are now very happy and meant to be together.
What of me and J then? Life is messy and nothing is perfect, but why? So that we could feel a real intense passion we had never felt before? Or as disappointing as it sounds, it got us off the islands we were stuck on. What a waste. I don't understand it and maybe I am not supposed to. If it was to push us to where we are supposed to be then it's a bloody painful part of the journey. If anything it inspired the Show Love website....❤️
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In August 2013, I made Bronwen cry at work. We were at Big Brother at the time and it was because I flashed my new engagement ring at her. Bronwen was so overcome with happiness for me she instantly burst into tears whilst we were rehearsing an eviction.
She was so thrilled for me as she had been on my whole journey of singledom for about 10 years - setting me up on blind dates, checking the availability of guys I fancied at work and just being an incredible shoulder to cry on when things went bad.
One day at work, Bronwen gave me a book called He's just not that into you. "What the f@£k is this?" I thought. Why would I want to read something like that? Talk about knocking a girl when she is down. Well that book changed my life, it's brilliant and hilarious!!! I have recommended it to all my single girl friends since. It taught me not to settle for someone who doesn't treat you the way you deserve and don't make excuses for the guys who aren't that into you. Basically, if they want to be with you, they will.
So I took the advice of the book and the next person I met was Dan. We have been together now for 6 years and got married 2 years ago. He's amazing!!! Well worth the wait and I look forward to spending our future together. I guess he WAS into me😍
So what am I going to do about it? The first thing I am going to do is STOP talking about it. I have been in a struggle for a few years now due to the nature of the relationship, which I will go into later, and I am talked out. My poor friends and family. The only therapy I will have is writing my story, apparently it helps according to the podcasts I have been listening to recently. Writing things down.
Despite the pain in my gut, I am a very positive person and since it happened I have been trying to see the good in our parting. You know, when you try not to be selfish and think about how you are doing a good thing for the person you love.
I'm not going to dwell on how long it's been, but I was trying to be strong, trying to do what is best for both of us and then one of those things happens that sends you right back to square one. That was what happened last week.
I haven't seen J for a while, and the last time I did he stormed out of my house, slamming the door behind him. He was angry. He didn't understand why I was bringing up how insecure he was making me feel when he was grieving the loss of a grandparent. I must admit the timing sucked. But then that was our thing. Timing. Shit timing. I had been born 14 years too early. I had met him when he was getting married in a couple of months. I had a lovely, supportive, loyal boyfriend I didn't want to hurt. It all came out of the blue. Like lightening.
When I tell people the romantic story of how we met, they want a happy ending. That we both ran to our cars that were parked facing each other at the same time. It was raining, and his smile just stayed in my mind all day. That he left his number on my car a few days later. That when he first kissed me there was a magical energy I had never felt before. It was all bloody wonderful.
It should have just carried on from there, growing together and loving each other. But amongst the amazing feeling we had, it got so horribly complicated and difficult.
I broke up with my loyal boyfriend. But he married his girlfriend.
I took him back after he said he wanted me and had made a mistake. He didn't tell the truth to either of us.
I dived into the deep love pool. But he just cautiously stayed on the surface for way too long.
Now here I am, coughing at the edge of the pool through my tears trying to figure out how to recover.
Well, firstly I am going to have to concentrate on me. Become the best version of myself...and that is work in progress. I read a book at night, pausing to cry and try and let go more and more. I play my music loud and sing at the top of my voice when driving. And I see friends, I spend as much time as I can with people, at work or cuddling my two perfect sons.
Loneliness is the enemy. It's when alone that I think and remember and hurt the most. Must keep busy....
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We met at 15 .. they said it wouldn't last ... We got engaged at 18 ... they said it wouldn't last ... We married at 19 .. they said it wouldn't last ... We supported each other through study, poor health and family traumas... and they said it wouldn't last .. We had two children (each with their own issues to test us!) and they said it wouldn't last .... In September we celebrate 25 years together - IT DID LAST!!! ❤️
Hi, thanks for reading.... To be honest with you, I have no idea what I am doing but I want to grow and I want to start now. Last night as I had dinner with eight other girls I told them that earlier that day, whilst on the loo of all places, I came up with the idea to write my story online. Now I don't believe that my story is any more interesting than yours, but what I do know is that people don't share, we are all blagging it at life and most people cover this up. Anyone who knows me knows that I share, a lot! If any of my friends are reading this then they will know pretty much all of this story, and actually, come to think about it, most people I work with too. But, there might be someone who reads this and needs to hear it. Let me tell you, heartbreak is the most lonely world. Crying yourself to sleep in an empty bed, wanting so much to touch and smell the person you miss. If you are going through this now...you are not alone!
So this is going to be my story. I have no idea where it is going to take me. That's the exciting part. The painful part is that the ache at the pit of my stomach is there. ALL THE TIME. And in sharing this I hope it not only helps me, but maybe somewhere helps someone, anyone.
Well here I am, lucky enough to have launched a website to share my story, and just to explain this website - Show Love - it has three parts. Find Love, which are events, a Show Love Party, first one happening in London this September. Spread Love, which is this part, stories of all types of love and goodwill. And Self Love, which is positivity and well being, hopefully including some life tips from people all over the world.
When I came up with the idea for this website, I was so in love. I had dived in deep thinking the guy, we shall call him J to help him stay anonymous, was diving just behind me. It's a complicated story for a later date, but whilst I was swimming around he was just dipping his toe in. Now it's not for me to assess why he chose a different route to me, but that makes for an insecure place. After nearly 4 years it all reached a head and I had to decide to either stay in the deep end where I had dived alone, pull him in with me or get out of where I had dived and start over again. I chose the latter, after all no one wants to force a man to be anywhere he doesn't want to. I didn't want to be responsible for him drowning, I had to let us both free.
But it hurts. It hurts so much. I don't know if this was the hard way, but staying wasn't easy, I tried many times, but I wanted and needed more. I deserve it.
We all deserve to be made to feel secure in a relationship. And despite the pain, I still love love, and am optimistic that I will love hard once again.
In 1995, myself and Bronwen were at University together and there was a guy on the course that I was voicing my utter dislike for. Bronwen replied that it was because I was in fact in love with him! This was a ridiculous thought as the feeling of dislike was mutual between himself and I. Bronwen was so convinced that we were in love with each other that she persisted and arranged for us to go out together one night - talking to each of us separately as we weren't on talking terms to facilitate the meeting. Well her instinct was right - 21 years later we are happily married and have four gorgeous sons. Without Bronwen there is no way we would have got together....
Bronwen is a true romantic and has an unbelievable ability to see chemistry between people and is never happier when she knows that people are in love! She loves love and is always willing to find love for someone...
Show Love is run by Bronwen Murphy. Bronwen has always been driven by love, seeing it as the one thing every person in the world wants and needs.
“Four years ago I fell in love with a man that according to the rules of logic, wouldn't work, but it was magical.. It happened the moment we saw each other, there was an energy between us that I can't explain. It was then that I realised that this love stuff is science. Having to wait until 40 years old to even feel such a thing, I felt so lucky I wanted to run events for single people to have a chance to feel this love and energy too”.
Bronwen is now single and mother of two wonderful sons. She has worked in television for 20 years and is a qualified Life Coach. With a lot of life experience behind her she has found a natural inner strength and positivity that she wants to share.
“There have been very tough times, and it's been hard. But I show a huge appreciation for love, because when love isn't handed out freely you nurture what you have. When you work for something so hard you love it even more!”.